No one likes to lose. From screaming and stamping your feet when you are little kid to maybe getting a little bit too upset and the games controller magically somehow flying across the room by itself, losing can really bring out a weird and quite angry side of most of us. Plus, we can’t even keep track of how many ‘sore loser’ moments have caused a big family feud around the Monopoly board at Christmas time. So, we think it might finally be time to nip this bad behaviour in the bud and make sure you can lose as gracefully as Jonathan Van Ness is on ice skates. 

1) Don’t get angry or aggressive 

We know – this is easier said than done right? When you are feeling fired up, it seems like the only solution is to shout about it. Actually though, getting angry is more than likely going to end up losing you access to online games if your anger becomes something more toxic, such as swearing or getting aggressive to other players. If you’re playing sphere is away from the console, then it might end up losing you some playing buddies as well. 

Try a quick technique for dispelling that feeling of anger bubbling up – the Naam Yoga Hand Trick. Using your fingertips, apply pressure to the space between the knuckles of your index and middle fingers. This creates a sense of immediate relaxation by activating a nerve that loosens the area around your heart (don’t worry, it’s not as life-threatening as it sounds). Whilst you are doing it, breathe in through your nose for three seconds, and out for three seconds. If only the Incredible Hulk knew this one. 

 

2) Try not to get too upset

Sometimes, you just can’t help it. The sting of defeat quickly becomes that familiar feeling of stinging behind your eyes like when your brother beat you at Connect 4 for the first time when you were a kid. 

The important thing to remember is that it is ok to feel upset about things, and often ignoring it will eventually make it worse. But, if this is part of a pattern of behaviour after losing every game you ever play even as you get older, there may be something that you need to have a think about addressing. 

When you start to feel like you feeling a bit overwhelmed by the sense of defeat, try a quick mindfulness technique. Breathing deeply and slowly, think about five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste around you.

Taking a moment to concentrate on something other than how upset or angry you are feeling and instead focus on your body should help to keep you calm and relaxed.

 

3) Don’t take it out on other players 

This a sure-fire way to lose any chance of playing again. Alienating other players by getting aggressive, rude or even harassing them could not only lose you friends, but it could also get you banned from playing long term – especially true if you are an online gamer or a tournament player in games like Magic the Gathering or Warhammer. 

If you are in an online game and you feel like another player has done you dirty through breaking the rules, or have been targeting you, report them. If it is Fortnite specifically, check out our guide to reporting in the game here

 

4) Don’t quit 

It can be super tempting when you are losing, to bow out of the game altogether.  Not only will this not solve anything, but it has the potential to ruin everyone else’s experience.

Instead of quitting, get back up and keep trying – the more you play any game, the better you will get. Use it as a learning opportunity, a chance to see what better players than you do and steal their skills for next time. You never know, when the next game rolls around, you could be one coming out on top because you stayed in the losing battle.

 

5) Remember – it’s only a game 

No matter if it’s a football match or FIFA, a battle royale in Tilted Towers or a battle for Mayfair in Monopoly, it is important to remember that it is only a game. Whilst yes, they are designed to be competitive, they are also designed to be fun.

If you find the game is stressing you out, take a step back from it and take a break from playing for a while. When you go back, you might find you enjoy it more, and you won’t have lost friends or respect like you might have done had you done some of the other stuff written above. We call that a win.

 

Check out our article on 6 Steps to Being a Better Gamerfor more ideas on how to improve your game play if online gaming is your thing. 

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Probably everyone at some point has thought about the possibility of making money from gaming at some point in their life. Maybe it was when you were 10 and mastering your Game Boy, or maybe you are deep in Twitch streams every day after class now. If you game frequently though, you know there are always ways to get better. That’s why we have put together a little list of tips for making the fastest improvements to your gaming. 

Just before we start the list, make sure you keep an eye out for our tournaments with Lt. LickMe and UMG. We run them every month, so get Twitch at the ready because we will be streaming alongside some epic players raising awareness about cyberbullying in games. 

1) Team work makes the dream work 

It may be a very obvious thing to day, but if you’re game of choice is a team game, communication is the key to success. Always make sure you are updating others on your location, planning tactics or calling for the ball (#RocketLeagueForever) as well as letting the rest of your team know what the opposition are up to.

Just make sure you are staying on the right side of the rule book – Fortnite publishers Epic are anti-teaming in a solo game of Battle Royale and have said they will be cracking down on those who take on the 100 in illegal teams so make sure you are playing by the rules before creating a squad.

 

2) Play by the rules 

There has been a lot of talk recently about the level of cheating in online gaming. Whilst it might seem tempting as a quick way to rise through the ranks of your online opponents, cheating is a big risk. Apex Legends just banned 350,000 players for cheating in the game, and publishers Respawn can track hardware ID to ensure you can’t just start a new account with a new email. Plus, it’s not just them – other publishers are cracking down on the use of cheating apps and tactics. Basically, don’t do it – or you’ll get banned at some point. And you can’t improve on your gaming with no game to do it in. 

 

3) Take it from the pros

It’s true in any sport ever – you learn from people who are better than you at the game. So put the controller down and hit up Twitch, YouTube, and Reddit. If your pals are better, take some pointers from them after they have had a particularly good run. It all adds up! Also, if you can, get yourself down to a gaming expo or convention – these events are full of brands, publishers, developers and pro gamers who are literally waiting to share their advice, challenge you to tournaments and let you try new games. All of this experience is sure to add to your gameplay. 

 

4) Replay Replay Replay

If someone has owned you with a kill only Shroud could dream of, don’t take it personally. In fact, watch the action replays of how they managed it. That was you can see what you did wrong and what they did right so that you aren’t making the same mistakes twice, and steal their tactics for next time. You’ll soon have a streak to die for (not you though – you are too good to die now).

 

5) Cut the toxicity 

We’ve all heard a lot about toxic gaming lately. But it is true that cutting some of this behaviour, or removing yourself from a match that is full of it, will definitely help to improve your game play. Insulting, abusive language, cheating, blaming every bad move on other players – if you are filling up your game time with all of this then how are you ever going to get better? Plus, if you are around it all the time, the game quickly becomes way less fun than before. So cut out the toxic behaviour from your gaming, whether it is you or others who are doing it, and start focussing on other things. 

 

6) Explore 

It might sound obvious, but remember to have fun whilst you are playing. Explore new maps, worm out those elusive Easter Eggs you heard about on Twitter, play a round just with your buddies for the LOLs. Taking it all too seriously is a sure fire way to get worked up, and anger never helped anyone to win a game of Battle Royale. This is a great way to reset any toxic behaviour and get your gaming back to having fun. Remember – if it’s fun, the hours you spend getting better will go by in no time. 

 

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You might be more concerned about the rate you can build ramps or running from someone who has got their hands on a SCAR, but one thing you might not think about in Fortnite is what to do when someone does you dirty.

About 50% of you have experienced cyberbullying in a game, so we want to make sure you know all the ins and outs of what’s OK, what’s not and how to report someone in a game. So throw out a Boogie Bomb because Fortnite is going to be even more fun knowing the haters can’t hate.


Why Report Someone? 

According to Epic Games who make Fortnite, any breach of the code of conduct can be a reason to report another player, and possibly get them banned. These include:

Abusive language
Using threats, discriminatory language or hate speech counts as abusive language, as does offensive player user names. 

Harassment
This can include targeting specific players by making their game play unnecessarily difficult, or their time in the game uncomfortable. This might be constantly attacking only them, following them around the game, encouraging others to team up against them and more.

Breaking the game rules
Epic have started to crack down on players who team up in single player mode to get further in the game. Also exploiting bugs and glitches, impersonating others, and regularly going AFK all fall into this category. 

How Do I Report Someone in Fortnite?

Reporting in Fortnite Battle Royale: Select menu icon > Select ‘feedback’ > Select Player > Enter player’s display name in the ‘Player Name’ field > Click ‘Category’ > Select reasons why you are reporting > Write down as much detail as you can in the text field > Select ‘End’

Quick guide to reporting another player in Fortnite Battle Royale

Reporting in Fortnite Save The World: Select menu icon > Select ‘Report Player’ > Select the player’s name you want to report > Select the reason for the report from the options > Optional – you can add additional information here > Select ‘Send Report’

Quick guide to reporting another player in Fortnite Save the World

What Else Can You Do?

When the haters got you down, it can be easy to feel like what you once found fun… just isn’t anymore. That’s why we’ve put together a few tips to get you back in the game and ruling Tilted Towers once again. 

 

 


1. Try Not to Get Angry

We know that it isn’t always easy to walk away, but responding in anger can often make a bad situation worse. You could try challenging the behaviour, not the person – so instead of accusing the person of being a ‘bully’, explain why their actions or words are causing you distress. For example, instead of saying “you’re upsetting me”, you could say “what you said/did has upset me”. 

Unfortunately, some people troll to actively try to upset other players and they are aware that their behaviour is having a negative impact on you. In these cases, try to walk away from the situation. Why not quit and start a new game where they won’t be present? At least then you could have a few decent runs without any haters in your way. 

2. Don’t Seek Revenge

It’s what our Mums always said to us in primary school, but treat others as you would like to be treated. By seeking revenge on someone who has done you wrong, you will not only soon find yourself in a circle of online bullying, but you might end up in trouble with moderators yourself. Be the bigger person and follow the rules of reporting to resolve the situation.

3. Keep a Record

Keeping a record of every time you have faced harassment or abuse in a game is your proof for later. Whilst the reporting system in Fortnite doesn’t allow for screenshot or video uploads quite yet, keeping a record of it is always a good idea in case you need proof further down the line. 

4. Tell Someone IRL

It’s important to maintain the relationships you have away from gaming even if you feel like you don’t always want to be around people. That way, when you step away from the keyboard, you still have support. Telling someone such as a parent, sibling or a mate about what’s going on can help you to stop stressing about it. 

5. Take a Break with Your Mates

Taking a little bit of a break from the game might be the best thing for you right now if you are facing cyberbullying. Spend a bit of time with your mates, watch a film with the family, or do anything else that you usually love to do when you aren’t at the console or keyboard. 

Having a bit of time to clear your head will ensure that you don’t react in anger and will give the mods some time to sort out the issue for you if you have reported it. It will help you see that you have plenty of other good things in your life and that it is actually just a game. Try returning to the game when you have had a bit of a break with some buddies for support – it’ll soon be just fun as it was before.

Cyberbullying is rubbish, especially when it’s going on in your favourite game. If you feel like you need too talk to someone about bullying or anything else that is bothering you, both online and IRL, reach out to the Ditch the Label Community here.

Shady online behaviours

Are you throwing some serious shade?

We put our heads together here at Ditch HQ to make this list of twelve shady behaviours that people do online which they deffo wouldn’t IRL.

We’re all guilty of at least a couple of the points on this list! But if you’re doing them all on the regular, then maybe consider …not doing them?!

1. Stalking people

Following someone around online is for some reason considered more ok than doing it in real life. It’s illegal to stalk someone in real life – but that doesn’t mean you can do it online instead! When you stalk someone online, you’re literally following them around their online hangouts. It’s like trailing your crush from coffee shop to coffee shop until they finally acknowledge your existence! (dodgy)

2. Judging people

Social media is a breeding ground for bitchiness and judgery, don’t pretend like you don’t judge people on their Insta photos or who’s in their profile pics! 😉

3. Comparing ourselves to others based on their social media activity

…“So, she has like 140k followers so she must be really successful and happy…”

4. Looking waaay back through someone’s old photos

And accidentally hitting ‘like’ on one from 2010… come on, we’ve all done it. *cringe*😱

5. Snooping at your crush’s exes online.

This is not a good thing to do, especially when you accidentally add them or like something on their page. Srsly guys, don’t risk it! Also, don’t judge a person on their ex-partners, they’re exes for a reason!

6. When you walk past someone you have as a friend on Facebook but don’t even acknowledge their existence…

… but you know all about their holiday last month and ‘liked’ their last profile pic.

7. Deliberately not ‘liking’ a friend’s good news because you fell out last week.

This is sooo passive aggressive. If you’re annoyed at a mate – talk it out!

8. One word: Schadenfreude.

A word which only exists in the German language and roughly translates as, ‘pleasure derived from the misfortune of others’ … ’nuff said.

9. Unfriending someone because you didn’t like their face in that last selfie they posted.

C’mon guys, you’re better than this.

10. Logging in to your mate’s profile and typing, ‘I love poop’ on their FB status… 😂

Ok, bad example – this is kinda funny if you’re 10, but also risky. You don’t know who’s got their super-grump of an aunt on their friend list who would NOT be amused by something a little more, risque!

11. Heavily editing every single photo you put online.

So, the occasional SnapChat filter is fine from time to time or the occasional moody Insta effect but honestly – you’re great as you are, don’t obsess over the way your skin looks! Embrace that double chin, love that pimple – own it!

12. Deliberately not opening a message so you don’t have to reply.

We’ve all done it, the old classic ‘I’ll deal with that later’ trick, which really doesn’t work these days since most of us are glued to our smartphones 24/7!

So, if you’re guilty of any of these, STOP! Exist in real time and use the glorious internet for what it was intended: cats and Netflix. Don’t forget to post your online pet peeves in our rant box

If you like this article, check out our awesome video Online Dating vs Reality

Max and Chloe\

Being the absolute nerds that we are, Ditch the Label thought it would be fun to compile a list about video games. Be it the first transgender video game character ever, or even a pop culture icon, all of these characters had a part to play in the progression of video games.

1 – Samus

When it comes to face reveals, Metroid did it right when revealing the identity of Samus. Players did not know the identity of the main character until after they had played through the whole game. What made this so great, was that players had hours to develop an attachment. The shock came when it was revealed that Samus was female. This made her one of the first female, badasses in such a male dominated area.

Samus

2 – Max and Chloe

I know this is a 2-in-1 entry but it’s my list, my rules and if you don’t like it go away… dad. Max and Chloe are two female characters from the BAFTA award-winning, Life is Strange. Throughout the story their relationship develops and depending on the player’s choices, their friendship develops into a relationship. The game tackles this topic very well, not constantly pointing it out or making it their only character trait and really that’s why I put them on this list.

Max and Chloe

3 – Women’s National Football Teams

If you thought I was cheating by putting 2 in the last one, you’re gonna love this. FIFA 16 saw the first ever inclusion of females as playable characters in the game. This comes with the ability to play as one of twelve national teams. This was a huge breakthrough for female athletes in video games and it has definitely been a long time coming.

Alex Morgan

4 – Michael Jackson

Yep… that guy. It should come as no surprise that the first ever black protagonist in a video game also happens to be arguably the most famous person in the world, ever. MJ featured in the 1990 beat ‘em up, Moonwalker; the objective of the game was to beat enemies by dancing them to death. Despite the horrible concept, the rise of Michael Jackson really helped open peoples eyes to racism, so like it or not, this old-school game contributed to the progression of society.

Moonwalker

5 – Birdo

So waaaay back in 1988, this character featured in Super Mario Bros 2 and was also the first transgender character in video game history. She was described in the games booklet as: “He thinks he is a girl and he spits eggs from his mouth. He’d rather be called Birdetta” This was later confirmed by Nintendo when in the North American version of Super Mario Bros 2 was released, Birdo was voiced by 3 different voice actors throughout the game, starting with a male and ending with a transgender female.

Birdo

6 – You

In Elder Scrolls V Skyrim, your character has the ability to marry any NPC in the game regardless of gender, race, background or age (not that one). Presuming you have consent, this game allows you to be as progressive as you wish. So, well done you.

Skyrim

So there you have it, six of the most progressive video game charaters in history. Any big ones that we left out? Let us know in community and for another gaming article written by this golden love machine (open to edit), click here.