What Can I Do?
We know that lots of young people can experience bullying at some point from a sibling. A sibling is a brother or sister. Bullying between siblings is often ignored because parents may just say that it is part of growing up when siblings fight. However, this can become serious and turn into bullying.
If you are being bullied by a sibling, you can speak with a digital mentor on our online Support Community here.
Here are six things you can do if you are being bullied by a sibling:
1. Tell your parents or guardian and ask them to help you
It may be useful to say to them you know that siblings may argue and fight a lot, but that this has now become bullying and it needs to stop. You can explain this by saying how the bullying is affecting you.
It could help for your parents to get you and your sibling together to talk about the bullying and stop it.
2. If it is safe to do so, talk to your sibling about the bullying
Do not accuse them of being a ‘bully’, but talk about the actual behaviour and how it is upsetting you. Instead of saying ‘you’re upsetting me’, you could say ‘your behaviour is upsetting me’. It is important to remain calm here to try and avoid an argument.
3. Do not blame yourself for the bullying
It is always the person bullying you who has the issue, and it is not your fault that you are being bullied. People are not bullied because of their gender, sexuality, race or appearance, it is because of the person’s attitude towards those things. You do not have to change, the other person needs to change their attitudes and actions.
4. Try to spend time apart from your sibling
This can be hard if you live together, but try to find a space in your home so you can be away from them. If you have different bedrooms, lock your door and tell them why you are doing this. This will help them to understand why.
Having space to relax and not experience bullying is so important to help you feel better about the situation and process what is happening.
Also, you could join youth clubs, after school clubs or spend time in different places such as your friends’ or family members’ houses.
5. Get support from others
Being bullied is a horrible experience for many, but a lot of people being bullied escape it when they go home. However, if you are being bullied in your home, then you may feel like you have no escape.
The stress from bullying can affect other areas of your life such as your mental and emotional wellbeing, performance at school and self-esteem.
It is important to get support from others to help you when you are feeling low or unable to cope. This support can come from many people such as a teacher, a friend or somebody at Ditch the Label. We are here to help you move forward.
We also have a really simple exercise available on our website called Stress Reprogramming which you can do either alone or with somebody else in around 30 minutes. The exercise will help you see stress differently and hopefully help you on your journey forward.
6. Look after yourself
It is important to take care of your health and mental wellbeing. Eating a balanced diet, working out, sleeping well, relaxing and spending time with friends and family can improve your physical and mental health. You can also get emotional and mental health support from a GP, therapist or counsellor.