Appearance Confidence Interview My Story

“Confidence isn’t just about physical aspects, but also mental ones too” – Shelby Lynch’s Top Ten Tips for Feeling Confident

Hi I’m Shelby!


I am a fashion, beauty and lifestyle vlogger, who has a disability called Spinal Muscular Atrophy. My passion is all about female empowerment, and women supporting one another. Too many people look in the mirror and don’t like the person who looks back at them and I think this needs to change!

So, here are my ultimate 10 Top Tips for feeling confident in yourself and your appearance…

1. Mind Set

It is important to have the correct mindset in order to have confidence.  Focus on yourself as your top priority!

2. Positivity

This is something I have only realised recently.  When I’m surrounded by people who are positive, it then rubs off on me.  So, make sure you surround yourself with people who love and care about you. Just drop any negativity or people who add stress to your life.

3. Music

Whenever I’m feeling down, I always put on my favourite music and have a dance (even if it’s just my room so nobody else is watching!) Put on some music that makes you feel empowered, sexy and confident and you’ll feel so much better! Personally, I recommend Demi Lovato and Camila Cabello!

4. No makeup days

This is something I still sort of struggle with but I’m getting better at it.  We are so self-critical! It’s easy to always point out our flaws. However, recently I have started to look at myself in the mirror, fresh-faced and just take in my natural look. I learned to love it no matter what. The more often you do this, the easier it will become!

5. Clothes

Wear clothes that you feel confident in. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. Whether you want to wear clothes that are very out there or something that’s simple and cosy, it’s up to you. Wear what makes you feel confident!

6. Comfort Zones

It is very easy to feel confident when you are in your comfort zone but try pushing yourself into doing more things that make you nervous to build up your confidence. Do that bungee jump, audition for that show, make that video, you’ll be surprised at your capabilities!

7. Complimenting others

I feel like confidence isn’t just about physical aspects but also mental ones too. When I compliment other people, especially strangers, it makes me feel happier because I’ve made somebody else feel happy and confident – which then rubs off on me!

8. Shopping

Obviously! Shopping is a perfect way to feel more confident as you’re buying clothes which make you feel comfortable! I always feel so much better keeping up with new fashion and the latest trends.

9. Films

This might sound bizarre, but watching the perfect film will make you feel empowered and confident. For me at the moment that is The Greatest Showman. It’s all about diversity and it could be described as ‘Celebration of humanity’. I definitely left the cinema feeling more confident!

10. Fake it

The last couple of years I have had the opportunity to meet people I look up to such as Selena Gomez, Zara Larsson and Eva Gutowski. I’ve been so nervous that it made me have little butterflies in my tummy but sometimes you just gotta fake it to make it! The more I faked my confidence, the more I have become genuinely confident in those situations. It’s all about putting yourself outside of your comfort zones in order to move forward!

These are the 10 things which make me feel confident! Hope they can help to boost your confidence too! For more fashion, beauty and lifestyle tips, check out my Youtube Channel.

Shelby xo



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